It’s Random Tuesday. Hope everyone’s week has started off on a great note. I was talking with some friends about how we tend to take our platonic guy friends with us everywhere we go. I laughed and told them that none of us should ever complain about being single. Why? Because men will not approach a group of women sitting with a group of guys. Any normal person would assume that we were on a group date. Have you ever wondered why guys aren’t approaching you as much as they should. Could it be that you sabotage yourself by always having a decoy date?
A decoy date is a close friend that you always call when you don’t want to go somewhere alone, you don’t want to be the third wheel, or you don’t want to appear as though you cannot get a date. If you have someone on your arm, no one will come up and introduce themselves. It is already assumed that you are taken. Often times we don’t even realize what we are doing to ourselves.
I know how it feels to not want to go places alone. However, here are a few great ways to combat this:
- Bring a female friend: If you just have to have someone with you, bring one of your dear female friends. A wing woman so to speak.
- Try it alone: Try going to your event alone. Pre – set a time to move around the room and socialize, as well as, a time to leave. Who cares what anyone thinks.
- Limit the decoy dates: Limit the dates. Don’t stop going out with your decoy date because he may end up becoming your Mr. Right. You never know.
If you are wondering why you can’t get a date, count the times you have been out with a bunch of people or going out with a guy without knowing that the two of you are actually dating. If he is your only go to date, you could really be dating without knowing.
Just something random that came to me. What’s your opinion?
Enjoy your day.