Second, in order to really move forward, forgive and forget. It is always essential for you to forgive yourself and that person for what did or didn’t happen. Try not to take things so personally. (I know very easily said than done). This is not for you to totally absolve your friend from causing you pain, it is for you to not dwell in the past. You will feel as though a weight has been lifted from your chest. A sense of peace will wash over you. However, forgiveness always happens in time -not over night.
Lastly, this topic is near and dear to me – Write! That’s right, write down your feelings in a journal. I had talked with my friends and family so much about the ending of my last relationship that they were exhausted – so, I took to my laptop instead. Writing can be exceedingly cathartic. It is a timeline of the relationship. Writing about what happened during your relationship reveals to you in black and white when and where not only that person went wrong, but where you went wrong as well – as long as you are realistic and truthful about the events.
When you are seeking closure in any kind of relationship, just know this – People come in and out of our lives. They are attached to us forever. While they may not be in our day-to- day lives any longer, they are seared forever in our memories. We will never have total and complete closure with anyone. If they in-fact come back into our lives, things may not be the same, but our love for them is still there.