The holidays will be here sooner that you think. That means it’s time to bring your significant others home to meet the parents.
As soon as you walk through the door, the clock is ticking. It’s the start of his/her elevator pitch to sell himself to the folks. By the end of his/her pitch, everyone already knows if they like him or not. In business, it only takes seven seconds to make a great first impression. Let’s hope seven hours is enough for someone you bring home.
What happens if no one approves of who you brought home for family dinner?
Once all of the festivities have died down and everyone is leaving, here come the parents. They tell you that he/she was very off putting – i.e. they are not feeling this person at all.
Your heart drops. You brought him home because he makes you laugh, he’s fine as hell and he’s good to you (so you think). He comes from a big family and you thought that he would fit in well with yours.
What would you do? Would you reconsider your feeling for this person? Or, do you care what anyone really thinks?
Things To Consider On Either Side:
- You have become isolated in a new relationship. Your eyes are still glazed over.
- You cannot see what everyone else does.
- Your mom has never steered you wrong
- If a majority of people see what you don’t, maybe you should listen
- The family is over-reacting
- You don’t want to have to choose – so you ask the family to compromise.
Well, this exact scenario happened to me. I didn’t care what anyone had to say about him. However, the funny thing was no one had good feelings about him. Both of my grandmothers (who tended to love anyone we all brought home) told me it’s something about him and to be careful. What was it that they all saw that I didn’t see at all?
Call it a sixth sense or what but these people were exactly right. Though, I didn’t listen and made my own decisions. I eneded up hurt. However we have to make our own choices. If you are smart enough to listen to your family, then I hope you don’t have any regrets.
When bringing this person home the first time to meet the folks, know if he/she is really worth it. Make sure your feelings for each other are solid. People who love you can automatically pick up on these things even when you cannot.
The truth of the matter is, they are simply trying to keep you from being burned.
That’s my story. Your experiences will be different. Handle it the way you see fit.
Have a wonderful day. Thank you for reading.