My Goodness - I Am Not The Only One!

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As some of you may already know from reading the cover of my book and reading my blogs, I have not been on a date in a very long while. Specifically, I stopped dating due to a broken heart. I gave up and never dated anyone else again. For so long, I thought people could never understand where I was coming from and that those like me did not exist at all. Walking around moping as if I am some sort of mythical creature, like, a unicorn or siren or something.

For many years, I assumed that everyone else moves on from a break-up normally. They shed a few tears, listen to a few love songs, and slowly move on (or quickly move on -depending upon the person). However, I just couldn’t do it. I couldn’t move on. I thought something was seriously wrong with me. (You will have to read the book to get all of the juicy details. There is so much more to my story than you would ever believe).

Well, I was watching one of my favorite cable network television shows and lo and behold, I am not the only one (LOL)! There is more than one unicorn walking around – a male. That’s right, it was a male and not a female, who was exactly like me. I always believed that if I ever found someone like me, it would definitely be a woman. I know, I know, men have feelings too, but I assumed that men got over relationships fairly quickly compared to women. I guess that is what I get for assuming – right? Though, I never thought that a man would ever admit that he had his heart broken so badly, that he never seriously got involved with anyone else again. Nor would I ever believe that he would actually admit it on a reality television show about selling real estate. Go figure?

Here is how it went down: The young man returned to his home town for business and decided to meet up with his ex-girlfriend, who also happens to be his only girlfriend. They take a canoe ride and during the ride he pours his heart out to her and begins to cry. Apparently he still needs some type of closure. He is simply too afraid to move on and lose himself again.

I always wondered why they would never show him with anyone. The other guys were always showing their significant others. One of the guys actually married his significant other on one of the episodes. Last week, however, the truth came out. He met and fell in love with his first girlfriend, but after so long, she broke his heart. Several years later, he has yet to move on to someone else. He doesn’t want to feel that type of pain, ever again. I almost choked on my frozen yogurt listening to his story. It is the story of my life! I know that pain all too well.

It is the type of pain that feels like you are having heart surgery without anesthesia. It makes you feel as though you cannot breathe. The type of pain that makes you feel as though you cannot bear to move on with your life. And once your wounds have healed, you never want to risk feeling that type of pain again. Ah, yes – I know.

He and I are a lot alike. It is hard for us to open up and let people into our lives- let alone get that close and intimate with us. When the person we let in hurts us, we punish ourselves for letting them in. He is still very young- actually around the same age I was when I was going through my issues. I only hope that he doesn’t take as long as I did to move forward and open his heart again.

People like him and others are the reason why I wrote my book. I wanted to help those like me (my fellow unicorns), and let them know that we really do exist and that we are here to help. It is a cautionary tale and not an advice book. They can learn from my many mistakes. Yet, they can also learn from my testimony that things will definitely change and get better.

Are you a unicorn or do you know any?

Thanks again for taking time out of your day to read my blog post. Until next Sunday.

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Have a wonderful week.