Open vs. Dating
You believe you found your equal in life. The two of you care very deeply for one another. After a few months, something is different. The feelings are similar, however you are not satisfied. Your attraction to others outweighs your feelings for your girlfriend/boyfriend. Though, there is something that keeps you coming back to him/her.
You love each other but variety is the spice of life. Since you cannot find or build the perfect significant other, you both decide to keep things “open”. Rather than following the rules of a traditional monogamous relationship, you opt to live an unconventional lifestyle. Rules are set. No couples guidelines are the same. The most common ones are something like, be honest at all times, be discreet, and most importantly be respectful.
There are many couples out there who subscribe to this way of thinking. Call them friends with benefits, swingers, and booty calls. These are all relationships that are defined by having relationships and relations with each other, but on occasion, with outside partners as well. No matter what title is attached, isn’t their actions similar to those who are simply dating?
The technical definition of Dating
“Dating is a part of the human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple” – Wikipedia.
A more simplistic and modern version of dating is meeting different people to see if there is likeability, compatibility and sexual chemistry. When some people date, they usually date more than one individual at a time – keeping one or two of them around at all times. He/She may not be ready to settle down. Like the “open” concept, they may enjoy the freedom of being with all types, sizes and personality types.
Comparing Open Relationships vs. Dating
Open Relationships Dating
Freedom to explore getting to know a variety of people for companionship Same
While dating you are fully committed to another May have a special friend doesn’t have to be committed to him/her
While sex is more than likely a possibility, it may be a mental connection more often than sex. Same
Guidelines have to be set and met Same – explaining that this person is not a girlfriend/boyfriend upfront
It is seen as cheating Perhaps if the rules weren’t set in advance
Jealousy can play a major part in the relationship at one point or another. Same
Can be married Committed not Married
Every couple should define their own relationship structure and what works best for them. Not to mention, love manifests itself in some very unique ways.
Though, in some ways I truly don’t understand the differences between having an open relationship versus dating at all. It seems that in either scenario the individual really cares about the person they are involved with – but – they want a little diversity.
With that, why not just date and keep things all the way open? Just one of these crazy notions that is swirling around in this wind storm going on in my brain – lol.
What do you think?
Thank you for reading. Have a happy weekend.