Happy Random Tuesday…
This weekend I read a story about a judge sentencing an inmate in court. Surprisingly for the man being sentenced, the judge happened to be his middle school classmate. He didn’t recognize her, however she knew who he was right off the bat. It was quite interesting to watch. She revealed her identity to him and he burst into tears. She told him that he was one of the nicest kids in school and she hopes that he will get on the right path (paraphrasing). Maybe this was the reunion that he needed. Touching – see below:
That said, it’s reunion season. You go to the mailbox and inside you discover an invitation to your reunion. At first you smile – thinking about what it would be like to see your old buddies. It is a time for those who simply want to reconnect with old friends. Then you start to remember how you were teased by the popular girls for those shoes that you wore that one time. You put the invitation in a drawer and all hopes of you wanting to attend is waning.
Reunions can be daunting for some. Those who may have been awkward, bullied, or considered unattractive, will perhaps be hesitant to come. On the other hand, a few cannot wait to see their former classmates – like, the ones who want to show off how they have blossomed or made it up the corporate ladder.
Much like the example with the judge and the inmate, reunions can bring about positivity. A lot of times your reluctance can be for nothing. For example, you are unsure about running into individuals that once intimidated you. When you arrive, put on your name tag and begin to socialize, you realize that these people are no longer as terrifying as you previously thought. There’s a probability that some of you may even receive an apology and make peace with some old concerns. Moreover, you may come to understand that some individuals will never change – good or bad. And that is okay as well. Don’t let those people ruin your chance to see those friends you have been hoping to see.
A few of us would rather skip these gatherings altogether and keep moving forward rather than looking back. My college roommate and sorority sister vowed that she would never come to alumni weekend. I had no reason to ask her why she wouldn’t attend these reunions because she is extremely successful and has nothing to hide. Whenever we want to see each other, we visit or plan an all girl’s trip. But, she is no stranger to communicating with everyone on Facebook. (I didn’t get it at the time, however, now I do.) Amazingly, she has kept her promise all of these years. Strangely enough, I have slowly but definitely taken on her way of thinking regarding this issue.
When I was younger, I looked forward to alumni weekend. I was always attending my college reunions. Though, I have never made an appearance at any of my high school reunions. It wasn’t that I had anything to run from – as my friends from high school (and elementary school) are still my friends today. Some of us even went on to attend the same college.
A friend from high school recently came by to visit and asked me if I was going to attend this year’s reunion. I immediately answered without any hesitation – “No, no way!” He asked me, “Why, you don’t want to see anyone?” I responded by saying, “I don’t have any problems whatsoever with anyone. I just don’t feel like going to any reunions – college, high school, etc.” After he left, I thought about the conversation.
I have always had friends and was well -known – no matter what school I attended. I’m a sorority girl. You have to be social in order to be accepted and initiated into a sorority. I was quite popular and loved my college years far more than high school. I connected with my college friends more, because we were growing into adulthood together – graduating, being in wedding parties, throwing baby showers, etc.
I have been to my fair share of reunions and will never say that I will not attend any more. It’s just the whole sizing each other up and playing one-up that I have outgrown. I’m no longer of the mindset of wanting to deal with those of us who take pleasure in seeing who looks older, balder or fatter. At my age and thanks to social media, I pretty much have the gist of how everyone is doing. All I care to know is that those with whom I attended school are alive, well, and happy.
Everyone has his/her own views when it comes to attending these things. Just know that we are no longer children, and these people should not hold that much gravity in your life. With age comes maturity. People can and often do change for the better. You should take all of these factors into consideration before chunking that invitation into the trash. If you actually decide to go – you may look up in the first hour and discover that you are having a remarkable time.
Just something random I thought about. Thanks for reading.