Happy Random Tuesday!
I always discuss relationships between a man and a woman. However today, I am talking about growing apart from your girl friends – those you have known for years. Last night, I was viewing a new show and for the last few weeks I have watched a friendship deteriorate.
The two friends were extremely close. They did everything together – shopping, girl’s night out, laughing and partying. Though, changes in life can begin to complicate matters. One was married with kids and the other was a single doctor. This had never been a problem for the pair before. With that, the married friend begins to get closer with the other mommies. The year prior, these were the same mommies that she would joke about with her single friend. Now she is morphing into one of them. Not only is she hiding her new identity from her friend, she is barely spending any time with her. Whenever they finally do come together, it is extremely awkward. They barely know what to say to one another. Priorities and interest have shifted and they no longer see one another at all – no malice.
The Warning Signs of A Fading Friendship Is As Follows:
- The phone calls and texts slow down until they come to a screeching halt. You go from calling and texting one another three times a day to once a day, once a week, and not at all.
- This person was always there for your most important milestones and now you don’t even think to inform them. They have become an afterthought.
- Your interests are so different now that you can’t even find common ground. You stay on general topics so as not to piss one another off.
- You feel guilty that things aren’t the same. However, deep down you know that the ship has sailed. And there is a possibility that you will never get that magic back – i.e. things have changed forever.
- You can’t explain to others why you haven’t spoken to your bestie in months. You feel embarrassed when people ask you where is your buddy and you really don’t know. So, you try to save face and respond by saying she must be busy.
I can go on and on. If you catch this early, maybe you can make things better by having a heart to heart. If nothing works, accept that this person will always be a friend. Though, never like it used to be. If this hurts you and you need to find a way to cope with this loss, I wrote a post called Finding Closure.
Thanks for reading. Have a great day.