The Holiday Blues
While a lot of us love this time of the year, it can be extremely depressing for others. There are so many reasons why we are not all fully captivated by the lights, eggnog, and holiday spirit. Sadness and depression can be triggered by those who are still coping with a major loss in the family, experiencing financial woes, not reaching the goals set for the year, being alone etc.
Whichever one or more they may be going through, there is a way to cope and make it through. It’s all in how one changes his/her mindset. Here are a few coping mechanisms to get you through the holidays:
The Loss Of A Loved One
There is no time limit to grieve a loss. It is a lot to take in. One needs some time to process it all. Holidays can bring about the memories one has shared with that person -whether it is a parent, close relative or dear friend. This makes for an unbearable time of the year. We miss those we’ve loved and loss. Think about what that person would want for you. Believe that the one you have loss would want you to be happy. Furthermore, take life one day at a time. Surround yourself with family members and friends. Remind yourself of the good times. Lastly, start off working on making yourself happy for them- if not for yourself.
A numerous amount of people can relate to this condition. A lot of us are living paycheck to paycheck. Some can barely pay their utilities, let alone for gifts. Not having money to buy presents for one’s children or others is more common than we would like to believe. On the other hand, we whip out those cards and by the new year, we have no money to pay the bill. Keep in mind, if you don’t have it to spend, those who love you will not care. Money doesn’t define you. Be sensible with your spending. Start a financial plan to get out of debt for the coming year.
Not Reaching Your Goals
You’ve set some goals for you to complete by year’s end. You didn’t reach your goal. You feel like a failure. No one is a failure. The way to look at this is to know that more days are ahead. A new year and a brand new start – a reset. A lot of us are not where we would like to be in our lives. As long as you’re alive, each day is a reset. Use your time wisely and learn from your mistakes to improve your circumstances. Don’t allow 365 days to characterize you.
Some individuals believe that they have no one if they are not in a relationship. Christmas, like Valentine’s Day, can magnify the fact that a person is companionless. They sit and beat themselves up mercilessly because they are unattached.
The focus should not be on the fact that this person is alone. It in no way substantiates the fact that he/she is not marriage material, or worthy of being loved. A more positive approach should be that they are simply single. Being single in this instance, means that they are not married. It doesn’t mean that they will never get married. They must remember that this is a moment in time. Things eventually do get better.
It is all in the mindset. If you or someone you knows has the holiday blues, think of the holidays for what they are supposed to be – a positive reflection on the year past while preparing to improve our circumstances in the coming year.
If you’ve noticed someone you love who is withdrawing during this time, reach out and spend time with them. If you are feeling depressed, check out HelpGuide.org, a trusted non-profit guide to mental health and well-being.
Thank you for reading. Have a wonderful weekend.