To buy or not to buy, that is the question…….
Yes, it is holiday season once again. I love this time of the year – the decorations, the smell of pine and cinnamon, and the gifts (giving gifts). I haven’t received very many gifts in the past few years. That’s fine because the greatest gift I have ever gotten is my blog!
I love giving gifts. I’m more excited to see the looks on their faces. Trust me when I tell you, my family can’t hide their disappointment when it comes to gifts. You can instantly tell if they hate it or love it. (haha) There are rules however. A new vacuum or tv is a gift for the house, not my parents. They want something specifically for their personal enjoyment – not everyone elses. For instance, an outfit, a three day golf pass, a gift card or a piece of jewelry is what they are seeking. This is a good thing because I am already accustomed to what everybody likes. My list is easy – no worries.
Oftentimes, there are reasons to think twice about the act of giving gifts. It’s not always straightforward or fun. You have several different personalities and different tastes to appease. Then there are the others who claim that they don’t want anything for a gift.
I have seen people say, don’t buy me a gift, and they are pissed off when you don’t. I have also witnessed when people didn’t listen and ended up buying that individual a gift anyway. Needless to say, they are ticked that you did, because they didn’t buy you anything.
What would you do if someone tells you not to buy them a gift?
Her are my rules for handling a person who tells you they don’t want a gift:
- Personally explain in that moment that you want to follow their wishes but, you will give them something small. You want to let them know upfront that you plan to get them something just to show you care.
- Reassure this person that you do not wish for them to buy you anything at all. Let them know that you are not doing this to one up him/her – you just want to show your love and appreciation.
- Be honest and explaint to him/her that if money is a factor, that is not the reason you will be buying them a gift.
- If they now feel that they need to reciprocate, tell them the next time they make your favorite dish – to make a small plate for you.
- There are gifts that you can give without spending any money. Make a babysitting coupon for this person to use at his/her discretion. Or, you can make a promise to go out to dinner coupon. The key is to be creative with both your idea and your presentation. Make one and print it out – like the golden ticket on Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory.
- Make sure you buy something small like a gift card to their favorite coffee shop, restaurant, or bookstore. Don’t go overboard. Doing this will show that you put effort into figuring out what they enjoy without spending a lot of money.
It is unfair when people put you in this position. You should be able to buy a gift for anyone you would like. If someone does this to you, the key is to be honest and forthright. When you do that, the person will be prepared for the fallout.
Thank you for reading. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.