Say you are just recently getting over a relationship and have gone through all of the steps you needed to move forward (See –Finding Closure ). You are happy and starting to feel like your old self again. You may have even started dating. Out of the blue, you receive a text or an email, or your doorbell or phone rings and it is from someone you least expect – your ex! It is as if he/she has a radar honing in on your happiness. What do you do if your significant other comes back into your life, derailing all of the hard work you put in to get over this individual? Here are a few things to mull over before blowing up all of your success and hard work.
Should you open the door or answer the phone, email or text? This is something that should be answered solely by you. However, if you do decide to communicate with this person, make sure that you get a clear and concise reason for him touching base with you. Do not wait and let this drag on. In other words, if you do not believe that this individual is being honest with you about his/her intentions, immediately cut ties. Here’s the thing, if you keep taking this person’s calls and falling back into your old dating patterns, your heart can become broken. Simply put, they could be setting you up for major disappointment. For example, your ex calls and tells you that you crossed his/her mind. You both begin to reminisce and laugh about the “good times”. The calls become frequent and your feelings for this person starts to resurface. Once you have been reeled back in, he tells you that he is getting married and didn’t know how to tell you. This time the pain is far worse than the initial break-up. Back to the drawing board you go.
What if your ex’s intentions are pure? Let’s say that he/she has taken this time to look back at the relationship and has become conscious to the fact that you are the one who actually makes him/her happy. Like the above situation, do not open your heart too fast – until he/she has proven to you that they are sincere. Better yet, take your time. I would even suggest continuing to date other people until you are ready to move forward with your ex – or not.
What if you do not take his/her calls or advances to contact you at all? If you are fully over this person, you should not care in the slightest if he or she contacts you , nor should you care what this individual has to say to you. This only indicates that you are ready to go on with your life and find “new” love again.
Whichever scenario you decide to choose, never lose sight of the initial work that you did to get over the first break-up. Be mindful over your own feelings – first, foremost, and only. You have heard of the saying, “fool me once shame on him, fool me twice shame on me”.
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